Youngest Caregiver with the Most Responsibilities
My father is in the Hospital and is dying of Cancer. My Mother has early stages of dementia.
We live 14 miles from my parents house and 95 miles from the hospital where my Father is. My Mother can not be left alone. I have 5 siblings, two of which live in the area. One Sister lives right next door to my parents house. I am the youngest in the family and I am married with a home and two small children of my own.
The two siblings that live nearby are both retired and have no children at home. None of them will come and help with my Mother. They expect me to leave my husband and move in with my Mother to look after her. They refuse to even spend one night with her to give me a break.
I am so stressed and sad and angry. I cry all the time. My kids are miserable and my husband is at his wits end. We are even on the verge of having our phone disconnected cause he has missed so much time at work running back and forth that our bills fell behind. They don't care. As long as they are not responsible they are fine.
I am grieving the fact that my father is going to die and now I have my mother to care for. My life feels like it is over. I don't know what do do. I asked them to help and they said no, then told everyone in our community that I don't care about my Mother and I don't want to look after her. I just think it is unfair that it all falls to me.
I can't even go visit my Father at the hospital because I can't leave my mother alone long enough to go. Everything is a nightmare right now. I don't know what to do.