Yikes!

by Amy S
(South Bristol, Maine)

Mom and Dad live next door, Dad is 77 and Mom is 76. Dad has COPD and a history of small intestine blockages with surgeries, Three to date.


The last two in the past three weeks. Surgery done at a hospital three hours away because we were at a camp vacationing ( the entire family). Very stressful and worrisome.

He is now home and this is his third day home. Took hum to his local PCP yesterday for a follow up. They drew blood and said he was dehydrated. I was told to push the fluids and let them know if he gets worse.

Mom has something called pseudo-dementia. She lost her license two and a half years ago. She can no longer do the household chores or manage the checking account. Neither of them have been able to do their own medication for about year.

The main issue with medications, is they forget to take them. I am the oldest and only girl, I have three brothers all who live on the same road as myself and my parents. Two of the three are helpful, one in particular carries half the burden.

I am a teacher and I am left to do everyday care this summer as I am the one who is home. I guess my sadness revolves around several issues, One the aging and poor health of both parents and the anger that my time is no longer my own.

I might also add I have an anxiety disorder and when things go wrong with my parents I go into over-drive and think the worst. This was caused by a rather unusual and unpredictable childhood.

I have been to counseling( years ago) and take medications for my anxiety disorder and function fine. That is until something goes wrong with one of the parents, then I just know my Dad is dying. ( raised hearing my Mom say it my entire life)

He was a drinker in his younger days and did disappear on drunks for days at a time. Okay...what's to be done with my mess? Thanks for listening.

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