YES, I'm Angry
My Parents didn't plan for retirement years and now it's on the children to handle the mess.
Nether of my parents graduated from high school. They married young because that's what you did in the 40's. They had 4 children and paid the bills but I don't even know how.
We didn't have many vacations, didn't go to summer camp, eat out or do much of anything. None of us went to on to further education until we on our own figured out how to pay for it. My father decided to become a Jehovah's Witness when I was about 5 years old.
They believe that the end of the world will wipe out all the evil and the chosen people will survive in a land of paradise ---- thus no retirement planning. Only one sibling is now a Jehovah's Witness now.
So now here we are my father passed away 10 year ago and my mother is 84 living on a meager social security check. She refuses to leave the family house but can't afford to live in it or take care of it.
So we children are being expected to pay for things to be done at the house, help pay for her living expenses and pay her 2nd mortgage taken out on the house before my father passed away. My mother still drives but recently has had some health issues so we have to get her groceries and take her to appointments.
She is still in relatively good health and could continue on for a number of years.
We have all tried talking to her about this- even got her applications for senior apartments but she won't fill out the forms.
The guilt trip is enormous. We are all getting to the point now that we don't even want to go to her house. She is very jealous if you mention doing anything without her and complains constantly about nobody helping clean her house or doing the yard work..... her house is cleaner than mine.