Yes I'm angry!
My siblings are going about their own lives happily while I have the responsibility for our mother. They say things like I know you are doing a great job, or, gee, I wish I lived closer so I could help, or bless you...I am SO SICK OF THESE PATS ON THE BACK I COULD SCREAM!
I do not want this job. I want my life back. I am 67. They are younger than me, but of course, they still work or live away, I am trying to hold a part time job, see my daughter and grandchildren, and I would like to feel free to take a trip or make a plan without having to always think about my mother.
On top of this, they regularly call me with happy stories of their doings, their good fortune, their holiday plans etc etc. What am I doing? Helping mom get to the toilet. Buying groceries for mom. Visiting mom so she doesn't go days or weeks without seeing anyone. Taking mom to the doctor. Cleaning up bowel accidents.
I don't want to be nice about it anymore. I have spent a lifetime looking after my parents financially and now physically. It won't be long before I hit 70. My best years are here, but I am so trapped.
Sure, they blow in and blow out...give her a visit? Sure. An hour later, they are gone, back to their carefree lives. There is no solution short of me moving a million miles away...but my mother loads on the guilt by telling me how much she counts on me, how grateful she is...I feel like saying STOP! LET ME GO!