I completely understand where you are coming from. We do have to congratulate ourselves though that we care enough to feel worry at all! I completely understand the grief of moving them, and being concerned over the level of care available to them and their happiness in a new environment.
I am looking for somewhere for my elderly mother, I am a single woman, and I have no siblings to share the task of caring for her. she has early onset Parkinson's and progressive dementia. She was and still is a very fun person, but it is heartbreaking seeing the bright, quick mind diminishing and forgetting so many things over and over again.
We do have to remember that WE must feel happy with staff - OUR peace of mind when we move them somewhere is actually just as important as whether they like it as well. They may like somewhere but it may not have great staff. We can reassure our parents by telling them we have checked the staff and feel confident in them. (If they have any complaints we can always remove them.)By telling them we are confident, we fill them with confidence as well.
We must find places that we feel secure with for the care of our parents. Good luck, I wish you all the best for you and your family.
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Elderly Housing - It is Difficult Emotionally to Decide What to do. by: Anonymous
Elderly Housing for my Parents.
I cannot tell you how stressful these days have been. The thought of "end of life" issues and knowing that time is now upon my father is really distressing. All my friends talk about the cycle of life and this is normal however, when I look at him as see that we are going to have to make a decision soon, it breaks my heart.
Housing choices are plentiful where we live and they all seem so nice and clean and a good place to be....I just have a hard time making the choice as the choice I make is kind of a realization that this may be the final stages.
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Too Many Choices and My Parents are Taking Zero Interest in the Search by: Anonymous
Saw your comment and just wanted to say that this is one of the most difficult times I have faced as an adult.
Realizing that my mother is not as strong as she once was and now may require the beginning stages of care. My Dad has for many years been in failing health of one sort or another and even he is seemingly going down fast.
Cannot get either one of them to embrace this and move forward into the next stage. They (and I really don't blame them) just want to stay in place and have someone come in to do the cleaning and cooking etc. My feeling is that they require or will require much more care soon (next 6-12 months). With a job and children and a home of my won to take care of this could be a daunting task to say the least.
I have been for visits to the homes that care for the elderly and they are okay...just do not seem to be the warm comfortable place that home is.
Maybe I am being unrealistic about these places or doing too much comparison of what home looks and feels like compared to these "industrial" places.
