Wow, I feel kind of Relieved

No time to rant away right now as I am at my job, but it is nice to see I am not alone in resenting my siblings who do little to help with my father who has late stage Alzheimer's. He was diagnosed 9 years ago now and I can count on one hand the number of times they have helped with anything.


My oldest sister and I, however, have been doing this daily for years. Nine years for me to be exact. Sister came on board as he got worse and needed more help. Yes, at least there are two of us but we have to work full time plus try to take care of our own stuff at home. Plus, my mother is totally dependent and will not do a thing for herself.

I think she's depressed and won't admit it. Even simple things like running to the store or calling for repairs around the house or car, we have to do it all for her. I don't really care about the inheritance and wish my dad had spent all his hard-earned money when he could enjoy it, but yeah when I have had to take time from work that I cannot afford, it would be nice to have a little financial help since the money is there.

I am not talking about a new car or trip or something, but a loan so I don't have to wait months to buy new tires when I need them. I have missed a lot of work over the years. Thankfully had 2 understanding bosses but now my job situation has changed and I no longer have that luxury of a good boss, plus make even less now.

But, nope, all the money will be equally divided when the time comes even though sis and I have run ourselves into the ground over the past few years while the others live their lives as if nothing is going on with mom and dad. Okay, guess I took time to rant after all. Must get back to making some money. Thanks for the outlet.

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