Wish my Dad were Dead!

by ldg
(Dallas, TX)

My sister passed away unexpectedly and she was my parents' caregiver. I don't work and live close enough to now be the caregiver. My Mother is sweet but my Dad is demanding and controlling. He's not afraid of death. He's afraid of not being in control!


When I'm there he treats me like a slave when he's perfectly capable of doing tasks. But he'd rather be treated like a king. He's 79 and has had health problems and he keeps living because he's such a stubborn SOB! I know it is wrong but I wish he were dead!

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My mother would sell my bone barrow if she could
by: Anonymous

My mom is the same. She never wanted to be a mother, and has expected me to take care of her all my life, including when I started working outside the home at 12 and had to give part of my earnings to her.

Her narcissistic flair has only gotten worse as she's aged, meanwhile my two siblings wisely cut her off years ago. There's no solution, only this brief relief from writing my truth, and my commitment not to let her define me.

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Sad but true
by: Anonymous

My father is 82 and is living with me. He has been with me for over 22 years and now I am so angry that my life has been wasted. He won't die...I feel awful that I feel this way.

He has a number of illnesses and is pumped with pills that keeps him going. I am 57 and feel depressed and angry that he is still alive and hoping that he is not one of those seniors that become a centurion.

I am unemployed and can't touch my pension for a few more years but once I do I have to seriously think of getting him out of my house and putting him somewhere so that I can have my life back. I just don't want the guilt. Lord give me strength.

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i feel the same way
by: Anonymous

my dad is 93 and I am 67, I am the only one to help him, and the other day he told me I was a damn smart ass, with that awful mean look on his face, I don't think I can take any more of his meanness.

I haven't been back there since, and that's 3 days ago. he has always been mean natured toward family, but sweet as pie to his friends. I had a picture of him here and I threw it in the trash, family can be your worst enemy. he is bad for my health. don't know what to do.

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