Widowed Mother in Law Taking Over Our Lives

by Rosina
(UK)

Since my father in law passed away, my husbands mother has been totally dependent on her son, my husband, for everything. She has her own home, about two miles away from us, but she might as well be living with us. My husband, who is the youngest of two sons,has been the sole carer (with my help), since his father passed. The other son wants nothing to do with us or his mum. We receive calls every night from her mostly moaning about things, see her every weekend, every Christmas, and bank holiday.

We take her on holiday every year. We had a big drama with her, when we wanted to go away on our own for a break. She is miserable all the time, and constantly feeling sorry for herself. I hate myself for feeling resentful towards her, but relations between my husband and me have been reduced to nil.

I feel trapped, and have tried talking to them both, but its going no where. I don't know what to do. I know my husband can't just abandon his mother, but I feel she could have some consideration for us what can I do.

She is hard to get along with, she upsets people easily, and makes friends, then loses them just as quickly. We have tried to get her to join clubs, even a dating agency, but to no avail. Any suggestions would be much appreciated, to save my marriage.

Click here to post comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Elder Care Anger and Resentment.