Why me? Again?
I cared full time for my very elderly father, who refused to go into aged care. I had to give up work and lost years of my life until finally loss of mobility after a hip fracture forced him into care. He was a most unpleasant man who treated his family badly. I was relieved when he passed away.
For a few years I was free to get my life back but now an aunt has become more and more dependent on me. She has no children and I live very near her, so again the caring role has fallen on me. My siblings don't live as close and also don't understand that she needs assistance and someone has to do it.
She says she will go into aged care when she is ready but she has a pet so at this stage she could not get into assisted living. I really would like to move from where I'm living because I'm no longer happy here but who would be available for her? I feel so trapped.
Also, I am single with no children so I am planning my future so I can transition into old age. I don't understand why everyone doesn't do this instead of sucking the life out of their relatives.