Whitebear

by Carla
(Ohio)

Please, anyone, give me some insight. I am 47 years old and my mother is 85. I've taken care of her off and on since I was 17 - broken bones, surgeries, pneumonia, UTI's, etc. She has lived with me since, it is the family home that has been in the family for 100 years. My husband and I have no children - just four-legged. My siblings have been less than helpful...one sister has passed, 62 year old brother too busy with Facebook and my other sister is 55 and is in facility because of M.S.


My husband really is of no help - I run the household handling EVERYTHING, work full-time, take care of mom, take care of dogs and try to handle my passion with our local animal shelter - Board of Directors. I have begged my husband to take some of the burden off of me and yes, he does do some washing and run the vacuum, but there is no initiative to do these things unless I get angry.

On top of everything else - I am going through menopause - so am irritable and moody. Maybe I just needed to vent, but as I see it my life is not my own - mom is a full time job so to speak and I just brought her home from 5 months in rehab and am in tears most of the time.

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