Where did Our life Go?

by Roberta

Hi, my husband and I bought a house together with my Mom when my Dad passed away. My Mom is 80 years old and is blind, she also has a aneurysm and a tear in her aorta. I work and my husband is retired,we have all been living together for one year.

We never go anywhere and are going crazy. It is hard to find anything to do when someone is blind and even at home it's impossible to find things for her to do. I am at a complete loss and my husband is not loving this at all........ any ideas would be appreciated. Roberta

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Call the Library
by: Sara Ann

In our area, they have a mobile library that will bring talking books to your mom. Also, check non-profit listings for all agencies that serve visually-impaired people and call all of them and see what they have to offer. You might be surprised how well they can improve your and your mom's quality of life. My prayers are with you.

Things for the Elderly to do
by: ray

Hi Roberta,

Let me start of by saying my heart goes out to you. I have similar issues and understand your frustrations only too well.

You and your husband are doing a wonderful thing giving the most important thing to your mother and that is stability.
I am only guessing that your mother must be feeling isolated and scared.

What about contacting the blind association for some ideas for your mom to do. One thing I tried with my mom is pottery making all she does is rolling little balls and then pressing these balls into a mold. After two days I then remove the slightly dried clay form from the mold and you have no idea what her reaction was when she felt the bowl done.

Pottery is a wonderful hobby for someone blind. I take her efforts to a local potter who then fires them for me. These pots are now proudly housing little herb plants.

If your mom can still hear get her some audio books they are wonderful to entertain her, unfortunately my mom can not hear television or radio, the pitch is just too high or too low, so I read a book to her for about 15 minutes a day she cannot handle more than that as her concentration is not so good these days.

Now getting to you and your husband, you must find something creative to do that will take some of the frustration away, maybe also pottery, or why not hire a caregiver nurse (not sure if you have something like that in your area) for a day and then you and your husband go out and do something together.

Alone time I found is very important and I have always taken that time in a relaxing bath with soft music playing it helps BIIIIG time!

Lots of strength and good wishes to you


In my prayers
by: Doug

Maybe some recorded books would help. Sometimes in larger cities they have tours of museums for the blind. I live way out in the middle of nowhere with my mom in her mobile home. There is no one around and she refuses to go into the city with me.

If your mom is up for some travel or you live in a city. Try the hands on part of your science museum.

Sorry, not much help but will keep you in my prayers

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