When Push Comes to Shove You're on Your Own!!
I certainly am cheesed off with being the only carer and no one in the world can help me or want to.
My husband has had Parkinson's disease since he retired at 69 years and later he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and he is 76 yrs old and deteriorating.
Mother is 95 years old with recently diagnosed with advanced breast cancer and is in no pain and is housebound except when I take her shopping she leans on me until we get to the supermarket and she gets around OK with a shopping trolley.
Mother refuses any outside help or aids and refuses to go to a day centre and puts on crying if she moans about loneliness and I say she had no need and should go to clubs etc.
I am the eldest of 4 and one sister emigrated to Australia without telling her just last month, my brother moved 2 hours away and had her stay for first time this year from a Sunday afternoon and bought her home Wednesday.
My youngest sister spends a month at a time at their villa in Spain and my only brother does the same as he also has a villa in Spain. The last person to be on his own at 92 is mothers youngest brother and when their other brother who he'd always lived with died 2 years ago he was devastated and leaned on me for everything including arranging his brothers funeral, changing all bills to be paid by D/D.
Also, he wanted building works done on his house and I was on call from 7am in mornings. I have had so many problems to sort out for him I couldn't even begin to list them. I can't leave him to be completely alone it would be cruel.
My siblings say that is the life he chose let him get on with it?? He goes to hospital and has cancelled his transport to the hospital, he also cancelled the district nurse he had daily.
My siblings say if you are going to moan about it, don't do it. Well, that's told me hasn't it?
I had a breakdown last year and still on anti depressants. Thank you for reading my endless boring story but it's all unfortunately all so true. Js.