What's so Great about Having the Last Word?

by Horrible Daughter
(Pittsburgh, PA)

You would think you'd use your twilight years to cherish and revere your close relationships, but NOPE - not my 84 year old Dad! He is petty and bitter. His favorite past times are picking fights with family and strangers, jumping to conclusions, and causing trouble. He's a mean gremlin. He's also an aging Narcissist and requires all your focus and attention. Have kids and a life? NOPE, not if he can help it. Are you talking? You're silly, because no one cares about what you have to say.


Only HE gets to talk and tell "stories". Only HE has lived a life worth discussing. He's a "communicator" and you don't know how to have a conversation. His aging wife and grown kids? They are just lowly peasants that should cater to his every beck and call.

They care for him deeply and show him respect, yet he tells everyone that listens what horrible, disrespectful people they are. He loves fishing for compliments and sympathy. He's a martyr too. He's died on the cross a million times for us all, ya know.

He loves to leave the house and drive for hours without telling anyone where he's going. He's busy criticizing the baker and our local cashiers. He gets very angry when we ask or show worry upon his return.

Then later he accuses us of "not caring at all." Everything we cook for him is "too salty" (maybe we're "trying to kill him with sodium") but not the canned soups and pork rinds he sneaks from the Dollar Store.

Sigh... I'm beyond "tired". He always strings me into an argument and I always regret it. I fall for it too often. I try to be patient and calm, but boy does he know how to press my buttons and he won't quit until I speak up for myself. Then the fight is on and I always lose.

He always claims that I "just have to have the last word." but I'm just trying to defend myself against his insults. I tell him he can keep his last word, since it means so much to him :'(

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