What Would be Reasonable

by Kevin
(Edmonds, WA USA)

After several years of caring for my dad and he passed 2/22. The executor, an absentee siblings who rarely came by in all the years informed me she has a buyer for my dad's house. It has been, what, about 6 weeks since he passed and dad always said I can stay 2 years. Everyone who was around knew of this. Except my two siblings.


But how would they know having never come around.

With nothing in will and executor cleaning out the safe deposit box and files here at the house. Do I have any rights at all? I need surgery and put it off to be there for dad.

He always said get surgery done and relax for six months, then figure out where to go. Now I am informed of buyer for where I reside a week after my father's funeral. What would you do?

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by: Anonymous

You're going to have to get an attorney about this. There can be an executor, but without a will (unless he did all signing over things before his death to someone) all of his assets are required by law to go into probate I think where it can be divided equally among remaining heirs.

How would you know if things were being done properly with nothing hidden? Probate also is for paying future taxes and finalizing loose ends. What happens next year if he owes taxes? Who will do that and whose money will it come from?

If I were you, I would talk to an elder law attorney. The cost of the appt. if you can afford it would be well worth the protection you need now.

Since nothing was in writing, I don't know about you staying there. There are "goodwill" clauses that can apply, but you would be responsible for all bills, insurance, etc.

Do you know anything about life insurance if he had any? That is another thing an elder law attorney would handle among the siblings to protect each person.

Good luck. Like life isn't hard enough and you haven't paid your dues already, right?

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