What to Do with My Mother
My mom (84) has lived with me (60) and my wife (56) for the last 5 years She was living alone so I, being the good son moved her in. My wife was her caregiver for all those 5 years.
Up until last Thursday when I got a call at work that she had left me under the stress of 5 years of being told "your stupid, get me this get me that do this don't do that" among other horrid things.
Me and my wife love each other deeply and our marriage will survive If I can just find a place for Mom.
Hello mother, goodbye me. Goodbye us and our marriage I don't even know this angry, frustrated, and burned out man I see in the mirror.
I just want to have my life back without guilt. I am the the only son left my brother passed away Oct of last year
I don't like this person I've become. How can I be this bitter? My mom has always loved me. She's been a good mom. So how can I resent her so much?
She can still get around with a walker but she won't. She sits in her chair and refuses to do anything for herself.
She wants me to serve her - period. She won't eat at the table, she wont go outside, she just sits in her chair and when I come home from work she expects me to wait on her
My marriage can be saved but I just don't know what to do with mom. Funds are only $915 a month and that's it with blue cross/medicare. She can't get Medicaid because she is in my home and they go by household income.
This is all new to me and I am lost as to what to do. She is in the hospital right now and I am trying to have her placed into a nursing home. Medicare will cover 3 months and I can apply for her Medicaid then because she will be out of the home.
But I am getting this sick feeling that they are going to release her back onto me ruining any chance to get my wife back and put our marriage back together. I am met at every turn with six to eight waiting lists at places she can afford to live on her own. Help I am losing my sanity and my hope