What Should I have Done Differently?

by Frank
(Jonesboro, GA)

My elderly mom lives with my brother. He is the primary caregiver. I usually call and talk to her daily. She has always been strongly opinionated, complaining, grumbling. I’m going to visit this weekend.


She and I had a argument last week so I put off visiting till now. I’m bracing myself for a confrontation. The argument was about my brother doesn’t like anything she does to decorate his house.

I said in a calm voice that he has the right to choose how he wants to decorate his house. What should I have done differently?

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It's not a big deal
by: Anonymous

I don't see what you could have done differently unless you didn't say anything to her in the first place.

Your brother CAN decorate his own home the way he wants to do. If your momma doesn't understand this, and gets upset at you for disagreeing with her, then shrug your shoulders and move on.

And unless she has Alzheimer's and is actually becoming difficult to deal with, it sounds pretty trivial.

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