What I wish elderly parents or the disabled would think about
In most cases people choose to have children to care for and raise to become productive responsible adults. Physical care for the child is heaviest when they are newborns and toddlers. That physical gets easier over time as child grows to independence. The guidance and supervision aspects of care can be more challenging in the teen years until 18 when parents are no longer legally responsible.
Care of a parent, depending on health conditions, can last many years longer (than 18 years). Instead of getting easier the elderly parents becomes more dependent.
The adult children are already tending to job and family/grand children/children. Add the additional load of caregiving for elder parents to the mix and the stress becomes insurmountable. The caregivers own health eventually fails (some are driven to suicide).
Many of the now elderly never had to care for their elderly parents because they just didn’t live that long So, they got to live their lives in their mid years. Nursing homes and Assisted living facilities exist for this reason.
They are not a bad place to be when its no longer safe for an elderly to be home alone.