Very Concerned Wife and Daughter in Law
My husband is an only child and we were recently married. His mother has struggled with cancer, obesity, incontinence, and mobility. She lived independently in her own home with a lot of help from us (especially my husband who works from home).
She refused to use a walker or wheelchair and unfortunately had a fall, and had a break in her sacrum. She was not taking her water pills (She subsequently was hospitalized a few months ago when she could no longer get out of her chair and we could not lift her.
Upon hospitalization we discovered she had a UTI along with the break. She also had progressed in renal failure numbers (she normally had a moderate level, it got worse.
Fast forward-she is currently in skilled nursing care at a wonderful facility. She has made progress(transferring from a, but they told us she is a 16 on the SLUMS scale.
Upon further testing it was concluded she has a pre dementia state. The team recommended she not drive again (if she progresses). I am researching assisted living, for when she is able to leave skilled care.
My husband wants to take a wait and see approach and is even thinking she might go back to her home. I am concerned this is overly optimistic and possibly dangerous. We are at odds. Sage advice please:-)