Very Ashamed

by Greenacres
(TN)

When Dad died, I was at the hospital by his side for a month. I thought he would be okay and get up and walk out of the hospital. At the time, my sister came down to relieve me so I could be here for my son's graduation. As soon as I walked in the door after my 14 hour trip home, I got the phone call that dad had passed in the night.


Mom gave POA to little sister and all of a sudden she is selling Mom's house. Over the phone I kept saying for everyone to slow down, you shouldn't make life changing decisions when you are traumatized. I thought every one knows that!

My Dad's best friend said I should have seen the sight as my sisters and their families came down like vultures to just grab and go. I'm pretty sure mom knew her house was being sold because she would tell me she didn't want to sell the furniture to make the house more sell-able.

Little sister doesn't listen and out the door all her beautiful things went. Almost given away! Sister promises to take care of her and they will become the best of friends. Well, they never got along. Mom says she makes her feel incompetent and they are very mean.

I don't Know what I did, but my sister won't talk to me at all. When mom got up here she lived in her own home and sister was in charge of EVERYTHING. She has her name on all mom's bank accounts and god forbid you mention finances.

Once I asked her what a POA was and what she could do and her and her husband told me to go f**k myself! They turn everything into a screaming match. Back to mom. When she first got here she would end up in a corner having full blown panic attacks, so I made a nice freshly painted room and moved her in with me.

She was very scared at the time. After a year and a half we felt she was strong enough to try living in her own home where she is now. My sister lives just down the street and they are doing her shopping, doctors,etc. I haven't lifted a finger in four months, since she left.

I call her everyday to make sure everything is okay, but she is just so miserable. She regrets not staying in FL like dad told her to. My shame is that I just can't go over there. I do not want to have anything to do with sister and she acts like the house is already hers.

We haven't spoken in about 2 years though I have reached out to her three times. My heart is broken. Sister and husband have said so many hurtful things. Even about my family. How do I make things right with my sister when she won't even talk to me?

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