User Stress Too

by Anonymous

I have had to call my mother since she was 50 at 5 each night. She thought since her parents died at that age she was going to.


Okay, now it has been 30 years of doing that plus all other things she needs. Now my husband passed away after 37 years of marriage 5 months ago. My mother has not let me rest since then she needs me each week to do grocery shopping or doctor visits for me to take her.

Her comments have been hurtful about my husband and then she says she knows what I am going through since she went through a divorce from my father That was 39 years ago. And she still hold a grunge with him.

But I can not take the daily needing she wants from me. I have also been still living in the house with my in laws that we purchased with them before my husband passed. Since my mother in law was getting dementia now it is worse, Alzheimer's.

My father in law has 2 other children that can help who live here but they do not. I ask put always excuses. Why should they I am here to take care of them. I talk to my in laws and told them I was upset that after 5 years not one of them does anything to help.

That was 3 days ago.

I told him I am going to need to move on with my life and he said that how can they live here with out my help. With both sides my mother and my husbands I am going to move on and out they have to figure it out. Plus I have a brother 10 years under has no children no job and a wife who supports him. Time on his hands to handle my mother he lives one state over but it's his time to take care of her or grow up.

Then my in laws kids need to step in also. I can say I am a peace with everything I have done in the 57 years so far. Now time for me to live a life! My own. but I am sure I will always care as usual I am the people pleaser.

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by: Anonymous

My father in law has early stage of dementia, caring for him has caused a lot of problems in our home and marriage, I had to stop dealing with him altogether and we had to move him and TV to his room cause he's mean to our son but not to our daughter.

My son is 6 and daughter is 7. He'll hit him and say hurtful things to him but nice to her. Me and my husband have issues, I fell he has chosen his dad over his family. We hardly talk anymore.

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Brother has abandoned does the least caregiving but can do no wrong in my parents eyes favored he's sellfish and has resentment towards me jealous
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I feel I'm closest and do the most but I like it brother is selfish older he's carrying resentment towards me. I don't care for his controlling manipulative abusive wife

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