Unplanned Chosen Angel for Family Care Giving
I think God chose me to help my husband out with his elderly mom moving into a assisted living facility. I could see my husband has no clue how to coordinate things for geriatric care, so I had to step in. Although I was not looking to be my mother in laws care taker, somehow, the forces of life lead to this. I love her, and don't want anything to happen to her, but at the same time, I've been caught in the middle trying to keep the peace between her and her son (my husband who runs 2 businesses of his own).
Her son had been trying to get her to move into a assisted living facility (ALF we'll call it from here on out), for the last 3 years, and last year was the first year she actually tried to make plans for it, but chickened out the last minute. Her son got upset and told her she was making a mistake backing out.
She argued back and told him "I'm not ready and I don't care if you think it's a mistake!" Her son owns 2 businesses and is the sole proprietor for my family, so he has to keep working full time, and can not make time to do all that I've been doing for his mother.
Over a week ago, she got pneumonia, I had to rush her to the hospital, get her into re-hab/ physical therapy, and now she's moved into a ALF.
Now, the next thing I am forced to do is start planning an estate sale. I must say this has consumed my life to the point it feels like a full time job, and I don't want to resent her or her son for such a huge undertaking.
But if I let him do this, he will just turn mean on his mother again for being so stubborn and refusing to listen, when she should have done this 2 years ago.
I see both sides, but lean more toward the son's point of view because it's not like we didn't see this coming. She just refused to deal with it. She can be extremely difficult.