Unless you're a Caretaker, you do not Understand
My husband and I have been taking care of my mom for years. First in her apt for 5 years and now she has been living with us for a year (she's 85).
Things are not good here and haven't been for awhile, but you all know what I mean.
We do the best we can but it's stressful and frustrating doing this.
Well my brother called to ask my husband for a favor. It was a bad time to do this because my husband blew up at him and hung up the phone. He said enough is enough.
My brother and other siblings don't help out with my mom and my husband has had it with my family because of this
My brother called me back and wanted to know why my husband is so upset. I tried to explain it to him, how hard it is for us to be the ones to handle all of this without his help or the the help of the others,
HE just didn't understand at all. He never will either because he is not in this position.
Unless you have done this, you can't imagine what is involved or how it affects your life.