Trying to care for mother, father, and a grandmother who is in nursing

by Chris

I am 51 years old. My parents and I live together. My grandmother was with us for a few years. My grandmother was in a long term care facility until it closed, it took months to find her a new place.

She is now in a new assisted living facility. It is very nice and it has a lot of amenities. She never leaves her room and I was going 4 to 5 days a week.

At this same time my mom is very ill. She has a paralyzed diaphragm, 350 lbs, agoraphobia, depression and can’t get off the couch.

My dad has COPD, black lung, has had several stokes and a heart attack, but he’s still trying to help. I work full time and for the first time in my life I have a boyfriend who I want to spend time with.

I have a brother who rarely helps, a niece who never comes around, a nephew who has coned them out of their life savings. My Aunt, Uncle, and cousins are of no help. Looking for advice.

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You’re a blessing
by: Anonymous

Sounds like you’ve really got your hands full.
I’m not sure what advice you’re looking for here, but at the very least I would recommend you tell your non-helpful relatives to chip in funds to help care for your needy relatives so you can hire help. The hired help will enable you to spend time with your new-found boyfriend.

As far as the relatives that "conned your parents out of their life savings" if you can prove that you may have a case of elder financial abuse. If you want to pursue that I would suggest an elder care lawyer.

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