Trust Issue

by greenacres
(USA)

I feel like my mom is manipulating both my sister and me to the point where we (my sister and me) are not communicating at all. Mom is like two different people. Sister has been rejecting my attempts to talk. Mom says I did not do anything wrong. I don't know what happened. We used to be real tight and there for each other no matter what.

This all changed when we lost our father four years ago. My heart is broken. I can't seem to accept that we are not sisters anymore. Do I keep trying or just stop.

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by: Anonymous

I am not good with social media either. It seems that you have tried your best to repair your relationship and communicate with your sister.

Is mom possibly playing you and sister against each other, playing victim and complaining to her behind your back to gain sympathy (the poor me pity party antics commonly played by narcissists)? How did she treat you and sister growing up? Did she play favoritism's or treat one child better than the other?

I would try writing to your sister: Let her know you still love her, don’t understand why she is ignoring you, ask if it’s because of something mom or you said or did, tell her you miss the sister relationship you and her used to have and that want her she communicate with you, but that you will respect her wish if she wants to cut ties with you.

After you write to her, you can let go and let God take it from there. You did your very best.

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by: greenacres

YES mom has always controlled my dad. She is/was an alcoholic during the time this sister was in her teens. I guess it's true every child has a different childhood. I have been trying to contact sister by means of phone as I am not that social media savvy.

For at least 3 years now I've been calling her cell and home and leaving a message, told my mom to tell her to call me, etc. to the point where I look like a stalker!

just kidding, but that's how I feel> Would you just show up on her doorstep if it were you? She only lives an hour away. I don't know why I am so intimidated by her and her husband. I just know they are the definition of narcissism and have really hurt my whole family.

I still LOVE my sister and my nephew, but it seems really weird since she cut me out of her life. I just want to understand. I don't know what to do, but am tired of waking up crying over her. Someone please advise!

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by: Anonymous

Was she manipulating and controlling your father when he was living? If yes, it’s very possible that she is behaving that way towards you and your sister because she can no longer control and manipulate your father. Do keep trying with your sister.

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