Trapped, Fed up and Angry (raging angry at times)
(Fresno, CA USA)
I'm angry because my only living retired and nearby sibling never offers help monetarily or by taking the burden off me for a few days or a week to recuperate.
I have been spending every night in the last seven months sleeping at my mother's house, taking her to doctor's, outings, cleaning house, buying food, cooking, etc., and the hardest part -- her endless complaining and whining and wishing she were dead.
I've communicated my feelings to this sibling several times. The only answer I get is "I'll see what I can do". And that's been nothing.
On top of that I have a hefty mortgage on my own house, a retired and sick spouse who can tribute very little financially anymore, along with my MIL, who is demented, that just moved in for the second time because she's in her 90's and has just about exhausted all her money paying for assisted living in the last 8 years.
I'm between a rock and a hard place. I have one of two options. File for divorce and have spouse and Mother In Law move so I rent the house before going into foreclosure. I cannot live there and at my mother's at the same time.
OR let them stay there while I continue to pay most of the mortgage with the remainder of my retirement money I have left, as I cannot hold a job in the predicament I'm in right now. I bought house before marriage and hold title. Yes, I can file papers and legally have them move out. There's no equity either.
Between the two of them, they have $3000 SS a month; I have zero income. My mother is 89 has very little money. My husband and I don't see eye to eye anymore either, so me even living with him and his mother in my own house is out of the question. He's controlling. We rarely speak to each other and his mother barely knows who I am.