Too Many Takers not Enough Givers

by Pat
(Georgetown, SC)

Elderly mom was abused in local South Carolina nursing home mentally and physically. After receiving a call from the ER on call to say pictures were taken and there was no way to send her back but not allowed to place her at other home had to be 2 hours away.


So my mom is with me which I am disabled trying to do best I can when I can. I have a sister who never calls after wanting me to send our mother back to the home that hurt her, she got upset because my English wasn't anything for her to be proud of.

She wanted argument so I can be her excuse not to call my mom which she hardly did and has just never cared.

This world is full of takers.

They don't care about the elderly for if they did why did phone calls stop....she has Parkinson's.

She knows who they are but that's the one thing I don't do is mention their names and that's the great thing I see about getting old you forget them like they forgot you.

My mom was basically told we had to go into hospice since we don't have family who cares.

Seems like once she was diagnosed everything stopped. Even few calls from grandsons. Trying to get my sister to call was like pulling teeth.

But if this is how her and her family are I am glad they don't live in town but should be ashamed Parkinson's foundation is in Colorado.

I believe close to where she lives anyway, it was her mom to but her loss in more ways than she will ever know.

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Too Many Takers...
by: Anonymous

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Hospice sounds responsible if you are both disabled.

You can't, and shouldn't try, to do everything on your own. I'm guilty of that.

Sister is too far away to help and brother is not interested enough to volunteer, however, he will help if asked. I just don't always want to have to ask.

Please get help from hospice or from your local Senior Agency on Aging. Call Medicare and Medicaid as well and see what they can offer to you. Best of luck.

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