Tired of Uninvolved Sibling's Yuppie Mentality
I agree with the woman who said all she sees is her sibling's back or hears, "Put her in a home".
That is what I'm dealing with in my own family with my one and only lovely uninvolved yuppie sibling who is too busy trying to maintain her yuppie life to be bothered helping me with Mom.
That is the "yuppie" mentality that is so prevalent today. The mentality that if we just PAY for enough services then Mom or Dad are being "properly" cared for. That we are too BUSY with our own yuppie professional level careers or training for triathlons or making sure our precious progeny gets straight A's and excels in tennis so they can get into Harvard, so why should we have to get our hands dirty doing Mom's laundry or mowing her lawn or making sure she has some nutritious food to eat.
The mentality that says why should I cook for Mom when I can just PAY for Meals on Wheels to be delivered? Why should I go over and help Mom get a bath when I can just PAY to get an aide to come in and bathe her? Why should I mow Mom's grass when I can just PAY to have landscaping services come and do it? Why should I run around getting Mom food or medications when Mom can just PAY her way into assisted living with beautiful landscaping outside and lots of pottery classes and social activities (as if it is going to make her feel any better when she is taking pottery classes!).
I am so tired of this yuppie, pay-for-services mentality. First of all, why shouldn't an adult child help out the parent? Would it be so difficult to cook up a couple of extra portions of food every week so Mom or Dad has something nutritious to eat instead of getting Meals on Wheels?
Doesn't it strike anyone how COLD and INDIFFERENT that attitude is? That if we just PAY for everything, then our duty is done, our parent is properly cared for? How about showing some REAL love, attention, and concern for someone who is a flesh and blood, alive, breathing human being, rather than taking care of 4 stupid greyhound dogs who poop and pee all over the carpets and 2 bratty kids who can't even wash the dinner dishes and smoke grass behind your back?