Tired of Pollyanna
by Third Sister
One thing that really irritates me is hearing from others that, no matter how much of a sacrifice this is now, I'll never regret "doing the right thing" for my mother.
I think that's bull...t. I will regret giving up years of my life and all my opportunities and possibilities for this period of my life in order to care for someone who made no provisions for her old age other than unpaid labor from her children.
I regret it already and I'm not even living with her full time yet. This is my last chance to have a good life, and my first chance to live life without a demanding job sucking me dry, and I would like to have that chance.
My mom is 80 years old and she's had 20+ years of retirement where she didn't have to work or care for anyone but herself. I would like those 20 years for myself, too. I will not feel happy and satisfied in the end if I sacrifice all my chances to make her final years as comfortable and nice as possible.