Tired & Doubtful
I took care of my mom with cancer for a year on my own when I was 27 and she was 55 and then she died. That was very hard and I thought I was "done" with caregiving for a while.
My husband, father in law, and I bought a house together (long story short, his mom had undiagnosed dementia and served FIL with divorce papers and they had to sell the house and business and he retired early).
He was very active the first 6 months living with us (he's currently 77), then became less active last year...but 100% independent. Fast forward a year and he fell in March. He needed 100% care that we provided to him 24 hrs a day for about a month.
It's July and luckily I'm off for summer for work or I'd be out of luck caring for him. Husband avoids taking care of him to avoid fights. Pretty much I care for him day and night, everything from wiping his butt to cooking to adjusting the heat or air 20 times an hour.
I'm 35 and trying to get pregnant. I'm afraid of being too stressed, miscarrying, lifting, or whatever. I desperately want to have kids before it's too late since my mom had early menopause.
I'm so stressed. My husband's an only child. We're going to look into a home nurse soon when I go back to work. I feel so selfish.