Three Lazy Siblings
(San Francisco, CA, USA)
I have three lazy siblings who do not contribute to the care of either parent who are divorced.
I make daily calls to my dad who is not in good health, lives further away, and may have a mild case of dementia. Mom lives with me, and I provide for her.
Angry and resentful doesn't begin to cover it.
The siblings were like this growing up, and character-wise never changed. I go to work, and then come home and take Mom out to eat so she can get out of the house and have a change of scenery, and we take a Sunday drive doesn't matter what day of the week it is.
Now she is unable to do much physically, so is not as mobile. She never joined a church group or senior citizens center. Tried caregivers but she did not like the people that were sent.
I have to go with her, so that is not a break. I am trying to make the best of a bad situation, but am unbelievably pissed off. I think after the parents go on to the next life, I won't be dealing with the siblings.
My attitude towards them (I am the third child of four) has deteriorated. They are not stupid people by any means, but passing the buck on the care of parents is inexcusable. Okay, I think I have vented.