The Youngest Wife

by Me
(Indiana)

I quit my very good job writing software when my husband and I had an opportunity to live abroad for his job. Since we've been back, I am a stay at home wife and we're both happy that way. He is the youngest of 4, and I am 14 years his junior.

His parents are in their mid 70s, and are starting to have more and more health problems -- especially his father. They and his siblings ask/expect me to just suck it up and do absolutely everything...stop what your doing and fix my computer problem/it's random holiday cookout where I end up making EVERYTHING/help do this/and so forth. I finally told him that I resent him for never standing up for me. He just lets all of his selfish, no-good, taker family blatantly use me and I am over it.

I would NEVER let my family take advantage of a spouse that way. I have my faults, but am someone who always offers to help, is responsible, and has a hard time saying no. So I've dug some of my own hole with this. I don't want to get divorced, so I guess I'm just going to have to learn some better anger management practices. And how to say NO.

Thanks for letting me rant!