The Tide Is Turning
I’ve been taking care of mom for seven years. I read this forum faithfully. I now see more sentiment surfacing in favor of facility-assisted care. There’s always been the few that see caregiving as a humanitarian, dutiful obligation which can be enlightening, and then there’s the majority lost in the abyss of resentment and anger.
But lately I see more and more expressions of “we just can’t do it all, and that’s ok,” ending with a deep breath and a sigh of relief. For those of us with children, I’m sure many of us have said to them, don’t do this for me, just put me somewhere. So that next generation is seeing it firsthand. Within a couple of generations, this home care of the elderly will no longer be the fashion.
The Boomers were raised with the All’s You Need Is Love philosophy. We are living it to the end, be it bitter, sweet or bittersweet. We ourselves will probably not receive the same level of care and sacrifice that we have given. But that’s ok, too.
So we continue on until the fat lady sings. And then we can take our deep breath and let out our sigh of relief. No doubt it will be bittersweet.