The Price is Right? Self Denial and Stress to Improve Moms Health?

by Paola
(Mediterranean)

Allowing mom to go out with bipolar caregiver, actually helps keep her young and alive in spirit.


I pay a local lady to take my mom around for a few hours here and there during the week so that I can continue working in the house, ironing, cooking, and cleaning.

Even though I stay in the house like Cinderella in order to keep up with chores, mom goes to local coffee bars, shops, etc.

The so called lady jokes with her about looking for men, adding rum to her coffee. She puts make-up on her, sings many of the songs my mom is familiar with and plays that music for her. When she arrives at the house to pick up my mother for my so-called break, she makes fun of me ridicules me in front of my 81 year old mother.

To her credit she actually helps my mom live. She reminds her of her youth lets her smoke here and there a drink here and there. They play cards and socialize with many people they meet along the way. (Mediterranean cultures are very social).

I actually do the same things but its not the same it hurts me that she appreciates others and at times doesn't actually realize how much I do non stop.

The bi-polar is a psycho invasive thief that steals small things like denture cleaner, diapers and thinks she has to be paid just for her presence. She's a non stop talker, like a parrot who just raises my blood pressure.

I fight with this lady. I actually catch her using all of our personal hygiene products and perfumes. It cost me money so she doesn't have to pay.

Big nightmare knowing that someone has gone through your cabinets, finishes your perfumes and other products. I'm not working. I gave up a high profiled job at a well known Wall Street Firm and came over seas with just two suitcases.

However, the results are mom actually laughs and is trying to talk again. Her face is satisfied she got fresh air and new experiences.

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Bi Polar Psycho
by: Anonymous

Hi, I am so happy your mother is having the time of her life with a so called bi polar psycho..not all people that have this Disease are Psycho, they are human beings, just like you!

It sounds like she may need a little medication to get her on track.. If she steals from you get rid of her.. You need to tell her you know what she is doing, if not she will keep doing this!

Her non stop talking does not make her Psycho. Maybe you should read about Bi Polar Disorder so you can get your facts straight! You will learn how cruel this is to overcome..But to generalize her or anyone with bi polar disorder as Psycho is very cruel indeed!

You hired her, if your caregiver bothers you that much and it sounds like she does you should let her go and find someone who isn't "Psycho"!!!!

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