The Oldest One of Six

I am very fortunate to have been blessed with wonderful parents. We always were honest and open with each other...even on the difficult subjects of what would you like if...such a situation occurred. My parents were open in sharing what they wanted should a stroke leave them incapacitated or on life support.

I am now trying to inform our "kids" who are adults, of our wants and needs in these circumstances as well. The bottom line is trust. You must have trust in those who will act on your behalf if you are unable to speak for yourself.

If someone appoints you for these tasks,they must discuss the judgement they wish you to make on their behalf. If they don't you must decline the responsibility! As for their parents are ANGELS...they always gave us their very best and we did our best we could under the circumstances.

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Trust is the Key.
by: Anonymous

I would hasten to point out that where a parent may say what they would like to happen in the event of a crisis, it is important to identify that they may think differently during the crisis itself. So it is very important in this scenario to be open to them still, while they are experiencing a crisis. People do change their minds!

Also, I would say that the person they choose to be their advocate would be the one whose judgment they trust more than others. The chosen advocate may not even think the same way as they do but they know that the advocate respects them and would do their best to look after them in a time of crisis.

The Advocate mentioned here, is typically an off-spring of the parent.

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