The Need to Feel Needed
( California Caregiver)
Just wanted to share with you all the things we do to make my Mom still feel helpful and needed even though she has advanced Alzheimer's.
Since taking care of her with my sister and another dear family friend we each make sure that she stays as independent as possible by allowing the freedom of still doing simple tasks such as folding laundry, drying or washing dishes with us, planting flowers in the garden etc. It's so very important to make a person still feel needed so they have something to look forward to each day.
She talks allot now about babies and we have purchased a doll for her specifically for Alzheimer's patients (its really safe) and she tries to take care of it. I was concerned at first with the doll thinking it might put unnecessary pressure on her to take care of it but I was quite surprised to read that having a little doll gives a person great pleasure and something to hold and pretend to take care of.
When they are done with it they put it down and they forget about it until they want to pick it up again.
If your loved one is anxious and struggling with Alzheimer's please consider this as a really positive activity for them. For most of the women in takes them back to the time when they were raising their own babies and gives them comfort. Even the men have shown promise with this technique so give it a try.
Remember too, we all need to feel needed by someone and that doesn't change simply because we get old or have a brain disorder.
Thank you for your time and God Bless all of you for what you do everyday.