The Need to Feel Needed

by Brianna
( California Caregiver)

Just wanted to share with you all the things we do to make my Mom still feel helpful and needed even though she has advanced Alzheimer's.

Since taking care of her with my sister and another dear family friend we each make sure that she stays as independent as possible by allowing the freedom of still doing simple tasks such as folding laundry, drying or washing dishes with us, planting flowers in the garden etc. It's so very important to make a person still feel needed so they have something to look forward to each day.

She talks allot now about babies and we have purchased a doll for her specifically for Alzheimer's patients (its really safe) and she tries to take care of it. I was concerned at first with the doll thinking it might put unnecessary pressure on her to take care of it but I was quite surprised to read that having a little doll gives a person great pleasure and something to hold and pretend to take care of.

When they are done with it they put it down and they forget about it until they want to pick it up again.

If your loved one is anxious and struggling with Alzheimer's please consider this as a really positive activity for them. For most of the women in takes them back to the time when they were raising their own babies and gives them comfort. Even the men have shown promise with this technique so give it a try.

Remember too, we all need to feel needed by someone and that doesn't change simply because we get old or have a brain disorder.
Thank you for your time and God Bless all of you for what you do everyday.

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A Doll to Care for....
by: Renata

I think this is a great idea. I saw my mom talking to the figurines in her room. At times I would notice the lip stick she put on them. I didn't understand it! But now I would look for a (safe) doll for her. Thanks!

Thank You..........
by: Brianna

Just wanted to say Thank you to Erin for such kind words. The little doll is $95.00 and ordered online from the Alzheimer's store. Its very safe and durable. I hope this proves helpful to others. Blessings to you.

The Need to Feel Needed
by: Erin

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I can sense the love and compassion you and your family have for your mother. What a wonderful way to help make these years easier for your parent as well as giving to others who may be experiencing the same. God Bless and again, Thank you.

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