(Grass Valley, CA USA)
My house was paid off, we retired. With my parents care and now just mom, we have borrowed $80,000 on the house, to be paid off in 2042.
About a year ago My brother and wife offered to pay $10 a month to help with mom, their last two checks bounced, closed account. They moved into their 2nd new home in 3 years, a bigger home, the last one was 5 bedroom and 3 bath.
I was told they had severe financial problems and could do nothing to help. That two of their rental homes were not covering the costs etc.
Tired of his children and grand kids and parents his now wife moved them from CA to North Carolina to get away from "his family". In all fairness she dumped her last child on a daughter, to get rid of him.
We have paid all the expenses, we live on retirement, there is no money for a funeral if mom dies and they did not help with our fathers.
Their income is around $5,000 a month give or take she is working or rental income is back, he still works. I am now caregiving for husband who has had by-pass, and partial amputation on one leg etc. Never a how are you, nothing.
He does not come and see his children, grandchildren or mother, he does not help them to get back to see him. He has just walked away and what his wife tells him he does. His choice of course, he has to live with it.
I spent my adult life caring for my parents,no vacations, no extra money. I am resentful toward my brother and guilty because I am. Thanks for a place to sound off.