The Chosen One
I have been taking care of my parents for the last 5 years. My father passed recently and was suffering from dementia. My brother would come up to visit every 4 months and take mom out for lunch but wouldn't include dad. When asked why he chose not to take dad, his answer was that it was too difficult. Granted, yes it was, but there was never a time that dad wasn't included in what my family did.
Now mom is living with me and I see him less and less. I have asked for help, but was told by his wife and himself that they were too busy, as they own a restaurant and can't get away.
I resent the fact that they deem their life more important than mine, and since I lived in the same city as mom, that I was the chosen person to take care of her, even though we had a discussion well before the move that I was going to need him more now than ever. I am losing sleep, I can't seem to concentrate on tasks at work, and find myself stressing about a multitude of issues.
Besides totally writing off my brother, is there anything I can do?