I am an only child. I have enjoyed traveling with my mom and was planning a second career when I retired. About 4 months before I retired mom got sick with a fib, then macular degeneration, and has long history of arthritis. I tried teaching which was my chosen second career however mom's need took us all my sick leave taking her to doctor. After two years I quit.
Mom has gone down hill and is showing some significant memory loss. I feel so guilty because I feel my best retirement years are going by. I used to take at least 4 trips a years and was looking forward to travel. Mom seems unwilling to allow my adult daughter and her family to stay with her in order for me to get a break.
Recently, I became ill with afib myself. I have had several surgeries and my heart is back in rhythm. I want to get away every now and then before my health declines. The only two times I have gotten away was when mom was in skilled nursing for 3 weeks. I am desperate. I feel so guilty and miserable. Please help.