Terrible Feeling! Trapped no Win Situation
My mother is 92 years of age and she has always been controlling. Since my fathers death 3 years ago she has constantly complained that I used to come often and follow my Dad around like he was a saint. She seems angry that she is not getting the attention she needs from the family.
I live a few minutes away and have always tried to look out for my parents. Things were fair until about 6 months ago and she started looking at me real mean when I would come and then she would start accusing me of taking her money, her deed etc.
I would tell her that I did not take anything from her and then she would start telling me all the bad things I had done as a child having fits at her for not buying me something in town, messing up one of her cars when I drove it.
She then took my brother who had not come around in years and got money out of bank put in another bank with his name on it. She finally told me that I had tried to give away one of my children when they were born because she said I let my next door neighbor baby sit.
To top it off she said my poor husband had produced a paper the night my Dad passed while we were at emergency room and he was home with her after ambulance came that he tried to get her to sign her house over to him.
Any way she sees other people she barely knows and gives them a big smile and a hug but for me she never says thank you and never smiles at me. She calls all of family members in middle of night and does not say anything.
She asks constantly for me to show her how her phone should work. I show her and then the next day she does not remember. She forgets what day it is and often says when I come you haven't been here in a while when I had just visited a few days ago.
She says things like your Dad would be ashamed how you are treating me. Any way I can't win.I have tried to help her and I have tried going a few days without calling nothing seems to work. Some days she is fine and nice and other days she is odd.
She wont take medicine doctor gave her says it makes her fall. She does not drive so I take her for most everything. What is going on I don't know whether she just hates me or if something is wrong. Torn and do not know how to deal with her behavior.