Tearing Up as I Read and Type
I'm also dealing with the same problems. I'm the youngest of 4 boys and I've been doing it all on my own since my dad passed away a few years back.
I've been struggling with bills and keeping food in the house for both me and my mother. My oldest brother, who is in his 40's, moved out when he was about 18 and while he doesn't physically live here, he has no problem paying a bill or 2 for us and pays one or 2 for us every month.
Now the other brothers? They won't even lift a finger to help with any financial responsibility.
They've never helped with anything and they only come around when they need money. Both of their kids live here with me and mother and I love my nephews but I just can't do everything by myself.
My brothers have full time jobs and I have a part-time job averaging 25 hours a week and I have to literally stretch my money to make sure bills are paid and groceries are in the house.
Every time I ask my 2 brothers for help, they say "I don't have any money". How are their pockets always empty when they both have children?! Every time they get paid, they're gone for days at a time and won't even come home to feed their sons or even call them.
I've cried myself to sleep so many times and I've hurt even more when I have to hear my mom say they don't care about her and how they avoid her once they get paid. Whenever my mom does get money, she has to feed their kids, who are in their early teen years, and mom never has anything left for herself.
So I usually have to go into my stash to give my mom a few dollars to make sure she has food to feed herself. I used to grocery shop every 3 or 4 weeks when it was just me and mother but now that my brothers are back in the house, they eat up all the groceries in no more than 4 or 5 days!
They eat like savages. I'm just so fed up because I can't do anything for myself because I have to worry about everyone else. My brothers get upset when I bring up the fact that they don't contribute to living here.
I'm so tired and I've been doing this for too long. All my brothers have had the luxury of moving out while I'm still stuck at home. I can't even think about moving out because I know my mom won't be in good hands.
I just wanted to vent.