Talking with Seniors Not So Easy Anymore

by Bob
(Tucson, AZ)

Talking with my elderly parent is not so easy anymore. Either I have gotten wiser or he has slipped a bit, can't be sure. We talk about everything these days when I am over for a visit which is 2-3 times a week. The thing I can't get over is this becoming his parent or my being in charge and making most of the decisions for him. It definitely used to be the other way around!
We now are involved in the discussion of what to do about long term in home care. There are a lot of choices out there. Just getting him to agree that he could someday need help has been a struggle. I guess it is the thought of having someone run his life (perceived) and that somehow his freedom may be taken away is a huge sticking point with him. I have spoken to my sister about this and she is in agreement with the idea and said that she would try to reinforce the idea with Dad when she speaks to him. I would love to use the arguement that this is a way better option than a nursing home or such, but I don't think this discussion would go well. He seems to be doing well with dressing and a little cooking although I am getting worried about home safety for a senior as he has been known to leave the oven on all night. Someone coming in part time may help on this and gratefully he can afford a person to come in to clean and cook on a part time basis. I guess a step toward in home care a little at a time is better than nothing. Not too worried now but beginning to be as driving and living alone could get very dangerous very quickly for him I think.