Taking care of Mother in Law

My widowed mother-in-law has moved to a nursing home near us. She previously lived in another state, but her second husband passed away and she needed to be close to a family member. None of her five children will take care of her because she has been a terrible mother. Some won't even talk to her. My husband feels obligated to take care of her now although she never did anything for him.


He was raised in a very dysfunctional family and was the first to go to college. She is not very old (80) but has many medical issues. My husband works hard and is successful in his job and community. Having his mother move near us has been difficult for him.

She complains constantly about her care, has errands for him to run during the day when he should be working, and constantly lets him know how she had it so rough growing up. He also has to hear about how terrible his siblings are.

I can see that it is affecting him. He is not as happy as used to be, he is gaining weight, and looks stressed. We have worked very hard for our family we have today.

We love our grand kids and our life. She has put a very big wrinkle into our world. What would you do?

She is on assistance because she has no money. Her mind is fine but she is not mobile because of diabetes. Am I wrong to worry about this?

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