Stuck

by Thomas
(Arcadia, Ca)

I'm a 64 year old single male. After working 35 years, I retired 3 years ago. Unfortunately, my 93 year old mother died 2 months prior to my retirement date.


As such, my father, 97, needed someone to care for him as he immediately suffered a series of medical problems. Although he is doing well and lives by himself, the duties of caring fell on me.

Financial and running the household in addition to my own needs and my at home consulting business. He does not want to leave his home so I am essentially stuck.

My brother and sister in law live in the same town, but want no responsibility. I am the younger. I worked hard, saved and invested and resent that I cannot enjoy the retirement I should be enjoying.

I hate the doctors keeping people alive just for their Medicare. I sound selfish but I am watching my best years slipping by. He'll live to over a hundred, I won't make 70 at this rate. What do I do?

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What to do?
by: Anonymous

Put your father in a "rest home" or put up with him.

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