Strung Out and Hung Out to Dry
I have an elderly parent who has severe Alzheimer's/dementia that I helped care for in her own home up until recently. This is my Mom we are talking about here. So as you probably guessed by now, a very emotional roller coaster ride since we have always been close to each other.
Alzheimer's has destroyed this once confident woman and reduced her into a small child scared of everything and it cuts me deep every time I see her struggling so. My issue these days is the home we had her placed in brags that they specialize in this particular care but they just don't seem to give a darn about the residents.
They started off acting like she would be so entertained and busy with all of these bustling activities and that the nurse to patient ratio of caregivers there was somewhere in the neighborhood of 4 to 1. We were impressed, but not anymore. Just a few months into her residing there we have found we must be there every day to make sure we give her a shower, dress her out and dress her for bedtime, make sure she gets three square meals and her medications.
It seems crazy to my friends that we are there so much but I have told them if we weren't there we would find her still sitting in her old clothes, hair not combed, no shower, and more than likely hungry! I'm disgusted with this place and the phony helps response when they see us coming....they act so happy to see us and act they like really have spent countless hours taking care of my Mom.
This is NEGLECT as far as I'm concerned. I have contacted the area ombudsmen service for elder care. In the meantime I am looking for other alternatives for her including coming to live with my family and me as I think she will be better off in the long run.
Part of the reason she was placed in this wonderful facility was to free my sibling and myself up from her care full time as neither of us were able to keep up the care 24/7, but this is ridiculous! Any suggestions out there from other caregivers?