Stressed to the Max between Spouse & care of HIS Parents

by Ginger1987
(Rockland County, NY, USA)

We moved in with husband's parents 2 yrs ago when, MIL (mother-in-law) had stroke. My husband has a difficult time getting around & had advanced to the point where he needs to use a motorized wheelchair when we go out to doctors/store - (those are the only places we've gone to in past 2 yrs). Though I'm in my 50's, due to an accident, I have neck/back pain & memory issues - but I'm told "at my age, one starts to forget where they put the car keys", no one acknowledges that prior to the accident - I was fine.


Anyway, since moving in with in-laws & assuming their care, it appears that whenever situation arises, DH (Dear Husband - that is a stretch at times LOL!!!) seems to side with parents against me i.e., whatever the issue is, it winds up being 3 against 1! I have spoken to DH about this & the fact that DH & I have arguments over stuff re: HIS parents - which I do not believe that DH's brother & his wife ever have.

I realize DH & I don't have children, but this situation is way beyond anything I imagined, i.e., when first introduced into moving in with parents for a "month or two". The current argument "for the day" was that DH didn't have clean pants to wear, (he has bleeding issues too) I didn't realize this, since FIL (father-in-law) dumps laundry (clothing/towels) that he & MIL have used, on floor in laundry room (which is off of bedroom DH & I share) Though I have been going through the stuff & washing things appropriately, the pile never seems to diminish, hence I didn't realize that DH pants were at bottom of pile, which led to today's catastrophe.

DH called me later, on cell to tell me to get another item at food store & was using endearing terms in his vocabulary, but it did not seem to be appropriate since he was doing just the opposite when I left the house 20 minutes prior to calling me. I didn't respond to his endearing terms, which led to him not speaking to me the rest of the evening (he went to bed at 10PM!) I realize I do not have many choices - leave/stay,

I am so discordant, I truly feel quite taxed. Thank you for listening, I wish you all a nice day. Take care. Ginger

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