Stressed out help from Brother finally

by Cherie
(Twinsburg, Ohio)

My day started with a meltdown at the grocery store because my mother pushes my buttons. She is very particular and has pushed my buttons for years. Only to have meltdowns scream and yell at each other and then makeup go on and do it all again the next Saturday.


She is now 87 and is so particular and hard to deal with it has taken a tool on me. My brother says you just have to ignore what she says and say okay mommie and then do whatever.

Why is it so easy for men to so call turn off their feeling when I'm having a full meltdown. He tells me either you turn it off and you can't deal with it and stay away from her.

I've been taking care of my mother my whole life and now my heath is at risk I'm on anxiety pills to deal with her. Today was the last straw, she can't go shopping anymore she has nearly passes out ever time and won't take no for an answer.

So, I finally told my brother than I can't deal with her anymore he has to take over. I've been doing this for more than 20 years, it is time he take over. My mother is bitter with the world, my father got killed when I was 10 and she blames the world for all her problems.

I'm glad that he is helping because if I didn't have him I would have to find an aid to deal with her. Thanks to my brother.

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