Stressed in Kentucky

by Rickey
(Lexington, KY)

I am taking care of my 89 year old mother, who has several problems. She just had a stroke, and can still get around, even though her left leg is hard to move.


My biggest problem is my younger brother, who has her power of attorney. He works, and stops by, maybe 30 minutes a week. We do not get along, and he is clueless about what I go through 24/7.

He abuses her money, and refuses to give me legal power. My mother let's him, and continues to blame me for everything. He dangles his daughter, my mom's only granddaughter. I am unable to work at the moment, as she needs me 24/7.

My brother is in deep denial and resents me very much, due to the fact that I was the oldest and got all the honors at school, and traveled around the world in the music business with major artists. He drives a big rig truck for a living.

His ex-wife and daughter dislike me very much as well. My mom will not give me legal authority on any thing. I was a Hospice worker in LA for 6 years, and took care of my Dad the last year of his life.

I do not know how to get my Mom to understand.

She takes all her frustrations out on me, even though I do all the Doctor trips, give her the medications she needs, wash the clothes,clean the house,help her to bed, take her blood pressure etc. I do it all and he does nothing but bad mouth me to my Mom.
Going crazy!

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