by Debra

I am feeling stress because everybody wants something from me and I do not have time to give to everything that is going on.

I have to be reminded of the simplest things because I am trying to remember everything I am suppose to do and trying to fit it all in one day. My mom needs things done for her, my husband needs me to do things for him, my son is giving all his money to his wife to pay the house payment so the children have a roof over their head and no money left over for himself and needs such as food.

My grandchildren are having a hard time with the divorce but these things are just the tip of the iceberg and I have no one I can talk to to get it off my shoulders because no matter who I talk to they also have problems or I cant trust them to keep my words to them selves. They want to tell everyone then my family member gets hurt or insulted and mad at me because I vented my frustrations and it made them look bad.

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by: Anonymous

I know just how many feel. Six years ago we had just bought a new house, been in it three months when we got a call that the father in law was in hospital and not doing well(had not heard from him in 8 years) and my husband could get time off to go out so it was decided I would go (husband is only child).

I had to fly out only to find him worse than when I last spoke to nurses. And found his living situation a whole other story. Had to fly him back 8 weeks later after talking to doctors and they tell us he did have long to live.

And here we are 6 years later I'm still taking care of a man who has never said thank you for getting him.
Then add a daughter, her husband and three grand babies in the mix and an unemployed husband and my stress is so high. Thank you for letting me vent like others no one to talk to!!!

by: Anonymous

I know exactly what you are talking about. It's the bottomless pit of need, with everyone turning to you as that ever-giving supply of everything nurturing goodness. But wait, everything is going OUT, with nothing coming back to you.

It's a vacuum and life cannot exist in a vacuum because there's no air for you to breathe. And the more you give, the more they need, and the more they expect you to give, never even thinking that YOU have needs, too.

It is difficult when your son and his children are having a rough time going through a divorce, but things do calm down after a while when they all adjust to their new reality. You do the best you can, but remember, it's the life that your son and his ex-wife made.

As for your mother, do you have any siblings? Are they helping at all? I hope that your mother understands that, if you do have brothers and/or sisters, they need to pull their weight, too. They might not, but at least you know that there are people who understand how you feel.

I hope your husband can understand how much pressure is on you right now and can try to appreciate that he could GIVE instead of take, at least for a little while.

If nothing else, this is a good venue for venting your frustrations. Best of luck and take a deep breath, as best you can in that vacuum.

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