Strained Relationships and Mother In Law with Parkinson's Disease Plus

I have a 8 month old son, even before he was born me and my husband we were having problems. We had to see a therapist but discontinued when we had to move back to our home country for personal reasons.


My Mother In Law has been detected with Parkinson's Plus Disease. My father in law is the primary care giver since my husband lives in a different city due to his job. I was hoping I will get some time alone with him when I join him there, but it seems now he wants me to stay back with his parents to take care of his mom.

It is not new for me, I have done it before but the baby was not there then. With all due respect to my mother in law I feel irritated now and angry too. I feel like I will not be able to do anything that I like in the next 5-10 years.

The thought itself is making me insane. I know I am being selfish, but I need to revive my relationship with my husband and trust me it is not going to get better when he sees I am doing a lot for his mom.

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Whew...
by: Anonymous

Oh MY GOODNESS!!!! Girl, get out of there as fast as you can! Something I wish I had done years back. I never did and now life has passed me by, I have not heard one word of thanks and I have lost every friend and relationship I ever had.

I have lost every ounce of self respect or confidence I ever had... On top of it I have lost my home and my investments and just to add insult to injury, have just been disinherited too... My share going of course to relatives that never lifted a finger to help...

Take care of you!!!! I became a danged hostage and "slave", and believe me I know what it's like. Learn from my mistakes. Really neat husband... You do NOT need to do this for him. He is obviously not thinking about your interests or happiness at all...

Good Luck!

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Slavery?
by: Anonymous

Is slavery legal where you are? Since when is it 'selfish' to want to have some kind of life? How can you be 'forced' to care for your husband's mother?

Sometimes you have to ask yourself, am I better off with him or without him? This is also not fair to your baby. Grow a backbone and get out of this slavery.

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