Stick a fork in me, I'm done
First of all, thank you so very much for this site. I read it from time to time and find comfort that I am not alone.
I am in my mid-fifties, single, the baby and only daughter in the family. I have two brothers whereas only one of them is helpful in caregiving to my elderly parents whom are in their early nineties.
I recently placed my mom in a nursing home and everyone hates for it. My father seems traumatized, one brother is silent and the other, that does not help has a whole lot to say.
My nephew and his mom think I've done a terrible thing. I gave up my job and now my apartment to move in and be my parents' full-time caregiver.
I have no income, no benefits, no savings, no social life and I am bad for placing my mom in a nursing home. My mom is incontinent, both with bowels and bladder. She is unable to stand or walk. She hallucinates and sleeps most of the day.
She would eat like a bird and hardly no liquids.
She became weaker and weaker whereas I was afraid she would fall or I would fall. She broke her shoulder last year falling out of bed but came home too soon from rehab.
I was working at the time and could not focus on what was happening. Since she has been in the nursing home, her health has turned 180.
Her color is back, she is eating, she has proper care daily. I have lupus and I still take care of my dad. He is very frail and incontinent also. He is, however, still able to walk with a cane and go to the bathroom on his own.
I sleep on a very uncomfortable cot and have to listen out for my dad. I cook, clean, laundry, grocery shop, pay the bills, visit my mom, do her laundry. So my big older brother who never helps, decides to pop in one day and tell me that mom should be home, she is ok.
Stick a fork in me, I'm done. Thank you for letting me vent. God bless us all.